It is easier to replace a job than it is to deal with the loss of your wife,  children and the people you love. This week I had a choice to make. I either to keep working or go home and take care of my wife and children. In the end I chose to take care of my wife and children. My work or more specifically the co-worker that is affecting my career here wasn’t too happy.

Although top statement above doesn’t make me feel better at the moment, I know that it is right and I will do it again and again and again. Through this experience I realized that this job is not for me. I cannot work for an employer with so little compassion that they pressure people to work when they have family to take care of at home. I need to look for a new job that respects and puts family first. I am going to look elsewhere. 

And the interesting thing about it all is that I felt peaceful,  at ease and excited finally something good will come. People complain and complain all they want but in the end and it is not work that matters in the long run. It is Family.


“I find I’m so excited that I can barely sit still or hold a thought in my head. I think it’s the excitement only a free man can feel. A free man at the start of a long journey whose conclusion is uncertain. I hope I can make it across the border. I hope to see my friend and shake his hand. I hope that the Pacific is as blue as it has been in my dreams. I hope.” – Otis Redding,  from Rita Hayworth and the Shawshank Redemption 

A power you can cultivate 

​”You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control.” – Elizabeth Gilbert 

Quick goal – Reading

Itching to get a Kindle Paperwhite but currently don’t read. 

Goal: Read from the Kindle App every day until Black Friday. 

Reward: New Kindle Paperwhite plus case. 

2016 Goals

One thing that really worked well for me in the past was the concept of working towards a goal and reward.

Somehow,  that mindset gave way to going with the flow and taking what comes. Come what may. While it may work for others, the three years of stagnation and lack of growth or progression in many areas of my life have proved that this philosophy does not work for me.

I need to get back to basics. I need to strive for accomplishments. I am goal driven. I am reward driven. It works for me. I need to use it.

Below is the list of goals that I will achieve in 2016.

As in the past,  family related goals are not included here.

Academic and career
– Complete my PM certification – Feb
– Complete the Head First SQL workbook – April
– Earn a new role at my current employer or obtain a new position elsewhere.
Reward: Peace of mind and New Life

– Be a Full TP
– reduce consumer debt by $5000
– Save up for a ultra High def TV $100 per month
– Save up for Christmas
Reward: Peace of mind and new TV

Physical and emotional
– Get to a healthy weight 180 lbs
– train and run for Whistler (June) and MEC (October) half marathons.
– No more than 1 week and two days of downtime
– maximum number of rest weeks: 3
– Enjoy one personal LW per quarter.
Reward: Years added to life and Refurbished Laptop in December

– Complete and keep up with all Gospel Doctrine readings and write my impressions each Sunday.
– 100% Personal morning and evening prayer.
Reward: Joy and new set of scriptures.

Reward for accomplishing all goals above: Trip to Thailand/RP, Alaska or Mexico in 2017

Something to realize…

“It’s one thing for other people to see potential in you and it’s quite another for you to understand that and see it in yourself.” – Daisy Ridley


All that we do,  all that we are,  all that we are to become is founded on our level and understanding of faith.

Check your answers.

A word of advice to myself.

Check your answers before you respond to anything. Crises aren’t always your fault or a result of something you did. 


Staying out of trouble

The secret to staying out of trouble is to stay busy.

(today,  I repaired the lid screen on Nico’s laptop and downgraded the video drivers drivers in windows 10 to an older version to add open gl support. Minecraft is working again!)