Goals for my 43rd year

Instead of the new year’s resolutions, let see if doing it in time for my Birthday works.

Vision:

My vision in life is to sustain a life of personal gospel testimony, family joy and unity and lifelong learning through faith, frugal living, consistent study and frequent travel.

For my 43rd year my vision is to lay a foundation upon which I can have the ability accomplish several key milestones essential for our wellbeing:

  • Establish a successful career as a software development project manager and as a trusted advisor to stabilize my ability to provide for my family
  • Eliminate our reliance on consumer debt to prepare for the purchase of a property in the next 5 years;
  • Really get to know and truly adore my wife and children to foster love and unity
  • Improve my mental and physical health to be able to enjoy this wonderful chance at life that Heavenly Father has given me.

Methods:

Physical:

Weight 180 pounds at the end of the year using ketogenic and carb cycling techniques

Run the San Antonio marathon in February

Run a Saturday half marathon in the fall

Mental:

Save $3000 for my trip to Southeast Asia in 2019.

Best self journal completion 80%

Consistent daily meditation practice

Career:

Obtain App builder and sales cloud certification

Start the Provincial instructor diploma program.

Obtain SSM status by end of 43rd year

Spiritual:

Study the doctrine and covenants and pearl of great price

Temple worship minimum once per quarter

Family:

Introduce regular individual days for each person in my family , including myself. Do this monthly

Take my son home teaching monthly. 100%

Family home evening – do it consistently.

Continue date night the way I’m doing it now.

Method of tracking:

Best Self Journal.

Gratitude Journal – June 28, 2017

Things that I am Grateful For:

  1. Inexpensive Slimstyle breakfasts.
  2. The Beautiful and Mighty Fraser River to run alongside.
  3. Quickly subsiding mosquito bites.

 

What would be great if it happened today:

  • Study for my exam for 3 hours.
  • Go for a run 4 miles.
  • Go out with Evelyn for a bit.

Daily Affirmation:

“I can run 4 miles without stopping.”

What three amazing things happened today:

 

  1. Ran 4 miles in just over an hour
  2. TBD
  3. TBD

 

What could I have done today that would have made the day even better:

TBD

 

Scripture of the day:

TBD

Gospel Lesson of the day:

TBD

Gratitude Journal – June 27, 2016

Things that I am Grateful For:

  1. A career opportunity where people consider my input as valid and valuable
  2. Fresh, healthy salads for free
  3. A new start everyday

 

What would be great if it happened today:

  • Go for a run (that will make it two days in a row)
  • Take time to clean and to study for my exam
  • Make a milkshake

Daily Affirmation:

“I am transformed.”

What three amazing things happened today:

1. Went for a milkshake. Strawberry. 

2. Peaceful drive along Dewdney trunk road through Ruskin and Silverdale 

3. Helped resolve an issue at work. 

What could I have done today that would have made the day even better:

 Should have gone for a run. 

Scripture of the day:

 Helaman Chapter 15

Gospel Lesson of the day:

 You have been blessed with so much. Therefore much is required of you. 

2017 Goals

Physical

  • DONE – June 3 Train for and complete the Whistler 10k event on June 3rd
  • Train and run for the Halloween eve half Marathon on October 28
  • Lose 40 pounds and keep a weight of 200 pounds by December 31, 2017

Career/Academic

  • DONE – April 3 First quarter: Find new employment which allows for growth
  • DROPPED – Second Quarter: Set up Ted Live experience April 23-29
  • Third quarter: ITIL Certification
  • Four quarter: SQL book completion.

Spiritual Goals:

  • Attend the temple once a  month
  • Study GBH manual and DC lesson manuals for each lesson in the week.
  • Pray every day on your knees each night and morning.

Financial goals:

  • Save for one month of salary if no Brian.
  • Save for three months of salary if  we have Brian
  • Eat out only once a week for lunch.

Emotional and Fun goals:

  • DONE March 27-31: Me week 1: Week of Apr 24
  • Me week 2: Week of October 28
  • Set up ADHD Coach
  • Read goal list Daily.
  • Set up weekly goals cards with the attitude goals included.
  • Complete the Korean class weekly podcasts.

Perspective

It is easier to replace a job than it is to deal with the loss of your wife,  children and the people you love. This week I had a choice to make. I either to keep working or go home and take care of my wife and children. In the end I chose to take care of my wife and children. My work or more specifically the co-worker that is affecting my career here wasn’t too happy.

Although top statement above doesn’t make me feel better at the moment, I know that it is right and I will do it again and again and again. Through this experience I realized that this job is not for me. I cannot work for an employer with so little compassion that they pressure people to work when they have family to take care of at home. I need to look for a new job that respects and puts family first. I am going to look elsewhere. 

And the interesting thing about it all is that I felt peaceful,  at ease and excited finally something good will come. People complain and complain all they want but in the end and it is not work that matters in the long run. It is Family.

Hope 

“I find I’m so excited that I can barely sit still or hold a thought in my head. I think it’s the excitement only a free man can feel. A free man at the start of a long journey whose conclusion is uncertain. I hope I can make it across the border. I hope to see my friend and shake his hand. I hope that the Pacific is as blue as it has been in my dreams. I hope.” – Otis Redding,  from Rita Hayworth and the Shawshank Redemption 

A power you can cultivate 

​”You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control.” – Elizabeth Gilbert 

Quick goal – Reading

Itching to get a Kindle Paperwhite but currently don’t read. 

Goal: Read from the Kindle App every day until Black Friday. 

Reward: New Kindle Paperwhite plus case. 

2016 Goals

One thing that really worked well for me in the past was the concept of working towards a goal and reward.

Somehow,  that mindset gave way to going with the flow and taking what comes. Come what may. While it may work for others, the three years of stagnation and lack of growth or progression in many areas of my life have proved that this philosophy does not work for me.

I need to get back to basics. I need to strive for accomplishments. I am goal driven. I am reward driven. It works for me. I need to use it.

Below is the list of goals that I will achieve in 2016.

As in the past,  family related goals are not included here.

Academic and career
– Complete my PM certification – Feb
– Complete the Head First SQL workbook – April
– Earn a new role at my current employer or obtain a new position elsewhere.
Reward: Peace of mind and New Life

Financial:
– Be a Full TP
– reduce consumer debt by $5000
– Save up for a ultra High def TV $100 per month
– Save up for Christmas
Reward: Peace of mind and new TV

Physical and emotional
– Get to a healthy weight 180 lbs
– train and run for Whistler (June) and MEC (October) half marathons.
– No more than 1 week and two days of downtime
– maximum number of rest weeks: 3
– Enjoy one personal LW per quarter.
Reward: Years added to life and Refurbished Laptop in December

Spiritual
– Complete and keep up with all Gospel Doctrine readings and write my impressions each Sunday.
– 100% Personal morning and evening prayer.
Reward: Joy and new set of scriptures.

Reward for accomplishing all goals above: Trip to Thailand/RP, Alaska or Mexico in 2017